I Give You This Hand

I give you this hand, that is still young, younger than I have thought it will ever be, even if now, I am older, and if I may say so , I am more mature.
Is a young hand indeed, a young hand that needs to write a message, but it also needs to remember how to breathe. "I would breathe but the air is missing!" It tells me very often.
My friend, I know what you may think, or what you may think that you know. Once you have had a dream into creating something. Answer me please : What has become of it? Wasn't your dream about holding an iron blade and hitting with it a big rock on the sea shore? You have imagined that you can brake the rock with it, and you kept hitting. How come you never realized that the blade will be destroyed, broken in thousand piecess, and you will remain there, alone, looking at the mighty rock, who has lost only a little dust in your huge effort.
Yes my dear, you were thinking at it. Thinking that you're something that has no age and no end. At glory you thought, riches you desired. And in the end what is left? Two eyes, two legs and 2 hands. "What about the mouth?" you'll ask. And I will answer: Yes, I had one, but not anymore. In a world where people, at least most of them are nothing more but a huge mouth with what they can only scream and talk nonsense, I preferred to erase mine from my figure.
You still wait for the sun to rise on your street? Still? Then sit on the chair in front of your window, and count the months until you'll realize spring has come. Hurraaaaaayyy! Is spring!!! A dystrophyc spring, which can only scare the sun away. Life is grey my friend, not pink, and not black. We are who we are, we are what we are. And what is left? You remain crawling and coughing in the sweet pollution, that our ancestors have made, and our predecessors will make worse.
I still am dumb enough though, to believe that writing can change something. So here I am. And I write. This is why, my very dear precious friend, I give you my hand. This hand which is still young, en spite the fact that my soul is older than the world.
Use it wisely, use it gently, make it's writing soft and cutting in the same time. Do something with it. Is your only fortune.

Time Passes Fast

Hm, I have logged in, after long time, in my long lost blog.
I have to confess, that I have had another blog, on the ex yahoo 360, which has been canceled, without me knowing or understanding why, because there was a good chance into posting the best lyrical ideas one could have. :-)
Anyway, I have seen that here also is such a possibility, and as starting today I am officially older, I have to admit that I will not make it as it was, but try to give it a "grown-up scent".
There are many things to be said, many things to be shared, and even if people don't follow my blog s absolutely ok, I write for myself and the world, and I believe that it will be found a common idea between me and the other people.
This shall not be a critical blog, or a blog that describes things in a critical way, such as making the others feel offended. I believe in the message-within message idea, and in the philosophy of "read twice and feel the revelation".
This is us, simple human beings, and our job is to leave behind ideas for in order to give our followers hints of who and what we were, because, all what remains in the end is just the memort of a small person, with slim body and big brown eyes, with ideas.
Hope that people will like my writing, and also I hope that I will be able to post a new thing at least once/ week.

Stop Atrocities!

I was surfing the internet and I have accidentally acessed a page, where a outrageouss human atrocity is considered normal and even encouraged by men. In opening, I would like to adress some questions: Does a woman word and faith and decency depends on somebody's beliefs? Inhuman behaviour and lies represent an excuse for jealous men?  Are men intitled to mutilate their women to make sure that they will remain faitfull?

Here is what I believe it is the biggest denial of woman's freedom to have her own intimacy and also denial of their human nature, considered pure reproducing animals and slaves.

http://www.religioustolerance.org/fem_cirm1.htm

FEMALE GENITAL MUTILATION (FGM) IN AFRICA, THE MIDDLE EAST AND FAR EAST

WHERE, WHY AND HOW IT'S DONE

Summary:

Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) is a destructive, invasive procedure that is usually performed on girls before puberty. Part or all of the clitoris is surgically removed. This leaves them with reduced or no sexual feeling. Orgasms are sometimes impossible to experience later in life. Many health problems result from the surgery.

FGM originated in Africa. It was, and remains, a cultural, not a religious practice.

Among individuals and groups opposed to the mutilation, it is seen as a method of reducing the sexual response of women in order to make them less likely to become sexually active before marriage or to seek an extra-marital affair after marriage.

To some who promote the operation, it is seen as a cultural requirement that has health benefits and makes women more physically beautiful. These views are not shared by the rest of the world.

The operation is forced on approximately 6,000 girls per day, worldwide -- about one every 15 seconds. Since FGM is practiced when the girls are young, they are unable to give their informed consent.

FGM: A cultural not a religious practice:

This mutilating operation is often associated mainly with the religion of Islam. This is incorrect. FGM is primarily a social practice, not a religious one. Female genital mutilation predated Islam. It originated in Africa and remains today a mainly African cultural practice. Some indicators of this are:

	It is widely practiced in countries where the predominant religion is Christianity: Examples are Ethiopia and Kenya.
	In multi-faith countries, it is often forced on girls whose families follow  all faiths: Animism religions, Christianity, and Islam. For example, it is frequently practiced among both Muslims, Christians and Animists in Ethiopia, Eritrea, Sierra Leone, and Sudan. 1
	FGM was once practiced by Ethiopian Jews (a.k.a. Beta Isreal; formerly known by the derogatory term "Falashas"). 2, 3, 4.5 This practiced was apparently discontinued some time ago. A pediatrician who works in the Beta Israel community claims that they no do not practice FGM in Israel. Also, their daughters who were born in Ethiopia were not mutilated. 6
	FGM has spread to countries in or near Africa (e.g. Egypt) which are Muslim. But FGM is rare or nonexistent in many other Muslim countries. Examples are Iran, Jordan, Lebanon, Syria, and Turkey. Also, It is not done in the Maghreb countries of Northwest Africa.
	FGM is only occasionally found in Indonesia and other predominately Muslim countries in Asia.

One of the motivations for this essay is the misperception by many people that the practice is a religious one. That belief has led to unjustified religious intolerance against Muslims.

What It Is

Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) is practiced in many forms. In order of increasing severity, they are:

	Type 1: Sunna circumcision in which the prepuce (the clitoral covering) is removed, along with part or all of the clitoris. This is called Clitoridectomy, Sunna, meaning removal of the clitoris in the tradition of the Prophet Mohammed. It is called "Sunna Kashfa" (Open Sunna) in Sudan. This is found most commonly in West African countries like Burkina Faso, Mali, Nigeria, and Senegal.
	Type 2: Excision: The entire clitoris and prepuce are removed, along with all or part of the labia minora. This is called "Sunna Magatia" (Closed Sunna) in Sudan. It is most commonly found in Burkina Faso and Sudan.
	Type 3: Infibulation (a.k.a. Pharaonic circumcision. This involves removal of the clitoris and prepuce, followed by sewing up of the vulva. A small opening is left to allow urine and menstrual blood to pass. 7 A second operation is done later in life to reverse some of the damage. In some cultures, the woman is cut open by her husband on their wedding night with a double edged dagger. She may be sewn up again if her husband leaves on a long trip. This is often referred to as Pharaonic or Sudanese circumcision. It is most commonly practices in Djibouti, Egypt, Eritrea, Ethiopia, Gambia, Mali, Somalia and Sudan. 10

There are also various other practices, including stretching of the clitoris and/or labia, burning of the clitoris and adjacent tissues by cauterisation, scraping of the vaginal orifice, cutting the vagina, placing corrosive substances or herbs in the vaginal in order to tighen it, etc.

Because of poverty and lack of medical facilities, the procedure is frequently done under less than hygienic conditions, often by non-medically trained personnel, and usually without anesthesia. Razor blades, knives or scissors are usually the instruments used. 

In the rural Mossi areas of Burkina Faso, group female circumcisions are scheduled every three years in many villages. Girls aged from 5 to 8 are assembled by their mothers into groups of up to 20. The circumcision "uses a knife-like instrument, the barga, reserved specifically for this purpose; after each operation she simply wipes the knife on a piece of cloth, sometimes rinsing it in water first." ₈ In some areas of Africa, FGM is delayed until two months before a woman gives birth. This practice is based on the belief that the baby will die if she/he comes into contact with their mother's clitoris during birth. We are unaware of any medical evidence to support this belief. Other areas perform FGM on infants before their first birthday, or in adolescence.

Side effects of the operation can include: hemorrhage, shock, painful scars, keloid formation, labial adherences, clitoral cysts, chronic urinary infection, and chronic pelvic infections. Later in life, it can cause kidney stones, sterility, sexual dysfunction, depression, and various gynecological and obstetric problems.

In which countries is it practiced?

Unfortunately, few statistical studies have been made; only rough estimates are available of the frequency with which FGM is performed. In some countries, the practice is near universal. One source ₁ estimates that 90% or more of the girls in Djibouti, Ethiopia and Eritrea, Sierra Leone, Somalia, and Sudan (North) have been mutilated. The same source indicates that over 50% of the girls in Benin, Burkina Faso, Central African Republic, Chad, Côte d'Ivoire, Egypt, Gambia, Guinea, Guinea Bissau, Kenya, Liberia, Mali, Nigeria and Togo have been operated on. The FGM Education and Networking Project maintains a regularly updated list of countries, population groups, and the types of operation performed. There are over 30 million mutilated women currently living in Nigeria, and about 24 million in Ethiopia and Eritrea. Various groups estimate that from 114 to 130 million women worldwide have had the operation. FGM is outlawed in some countries where it had been widely practiced, such as Kenya and Senegal. It is criminalized in some western countries, where it is normally practiced only by a small number of recent immigrants.

The procedure has been banned in several African nations, including Burkina Faso, Djibouti, the Central African Republic, Ghana, Guinea, Senegal, and Togo. ₉

Why it is Done?

The justification for the operation appears to be largely grounded in a desire to terminate or reduce feelings of sexual arousal in women so that they will be much less likely to engage in pre-marital intercourse or adultery. The clitoris holds a massive number of nerve endings, and generates feelings of sexual arousal when stimulated.

Parents in those cultures where FGM is common often feel that it is the only way to guarantee that their girl children will remain "pure" until marriage. This belief is so strong that it can overcome the dangers to the girls: some do not survive the blood loss during the operation; others die from infection; most suffer life-long complications.

Uncircumcised women in countries where FGM is normally performed have difficulty finding a marriage partner. Men typically prefer a circumcised wife because they are considered more likely to be faithful. Other claims in support of FGM are:

	The clitoris is dangerous and must be removed for health reasons. Some believe that it is a poisonous organ, that can cause a man to sicken or die if contacted by a man's penis. Others believe that men can become impotent by contacting a clitoris, or that a baby will be hydrocephalic (born with excess cranial fluid) if its head contacts the clitoris during birth. Some believe that the milk of the mother will become poisonous if her clitoris touches the baby during childbirth.
	Bad genital odors can only be eliminated by removing the clitoris and labia minora.
	FGM prevents vaginal cancer.
	An unmodified clitoris can lead to masturbation or lesbianism.
	FGM prevents nervousness from developing in girls and women.
	FGM prevents the face from turning yellow.
	FGM makes a woman's face more beautiful.
	If FGM is not done, older men may not be able to match their wives' sex drive and may have to resort to illegal stimulating drugs.
	An intact clitoris generates sexual arousal in women which can cause neuroses if repressed.

These claims appear to have little or no support outside of countries where FGM is common.

The fear of AIDS has been used by both sides of this issue. Shiek Badri stated in 1997-JUN: "Those who are not circumcised get AIDS easily" But opponents to the practice note that AIDS is spread by unhygienic practices normally present during the procedure itself.

Now I ask what it is to be done for this to end?

I think it is a wordwide problem, everyone should know and express an opinion.

It is not normall for any woman to be treated like this.

In conclusion, I think that all women should take atitude regarding this. Theese mentalities need to be changed, and only women understand how other women feel when they are forced to suffer what we cannot even imagine.

What do you think? What it is to be done? 

 

Beginning

I wrote about music because I think that the soul itself is made out of music, and I have never seen anybody that hates good songs. I am only a simple human being who tries to see the positive qualities of life, who tries to see the qualities of every person. As people we are all equall as human beings, our hearts beat the same and have the same shape and our blood has the same red colour.